Monday Musings~Hugs

Hugs. There is nothing like getting a hug from a friend, and I’ve found that giving them too feels wonderful. I am a hugger by culture, and by nature. The Mexican custom is to walk in and greet people present with a hug and cheek kiss. When I met my new someone’s 89 year old dad, I instinctively walked up, shook his hand and gave him a hug; he jumped back and looked very surprised. I told him then he could expect more of those from me; we had a chuckle together and he said that would be just fine. Mr. Someone new in my life told me they didn’t come from a family that hugged much. Things have changed a bit now.

Virginia Satir, a family therapist has said that we need four hugs a day for survival. Research shows that hugging is effective at helping and healing loneliness, anxiety and stress.

Last Saturday afternoon we paid a visit to my new guy’s dad who had had a series of falls recently, but had recovered nicely each time. As we left he came up to me before I could walk to him, and gave me a big hug. That was our last hug as it turned out; he passed away two days later.  I have had so many lessons of late on the importance of hugging and telling people you love them.

The photo above is a postcard my best friend sent me years ago. I keep it prominently displayed in a frame as a reminder of how good hugs are to get and to give.

This post is dedicated to Mr. W. I will miss his hugs.

About Angeline M

Love travel and photography. Living in Northern California. Photos of locations visited are personal file photos.
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15 Responses to Monday Musings~Hugs

  1. How wonderful that you got to give, and get, hugs from him before he passed.
    And what a sweet reminder of the importance of hugs. I too come from a hugging family, and Don and I make sure we have at least two 20 second hugs a day.


  2. krc says:

    What a precious photo!

    Lovely post

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  3. In everyday life I have found just a smile makes all the difference….. even in tough situations. 😊

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  4. Drew Willis says:

    Tears of happiness.

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  5. Sending you a virtual hug!

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  6. joyroses13 says:

    I totally agree, Hugs are Awesome! So sorry about the passing of Mr.W, but how sweet that you have a memory of his hug!
    The postcard is adorable!

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  7. Tippy Gnu says:

    How fortunate of him to get a nice hug before dying. That’s a great postcard, too. I can understand why you would frame it.

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